The only thing worse than getting divorced is going through a divorce where there are children involved. It’s so important to remember that they also experience the pain and anger of a marriage break up. Not to mention the uncertainty they feel about where they now belong and the prospect of having to choose between their parents. It would be wonderful if all marriages ended amicably and custody arrangements were simple to make, unfortunately we know this is not the case and this is when you might hire a child visitation attorney to help. They are expert in dealing and sympathizing with the different emotions that children go through because parents may admit it or not, children are the ones most affected with the divorce process. This kind of a lawyer is as great as a domestic violence attorney with this kind of skills. They know how to alleviate the trauma and the stress that victims suffer.
It’s a known fact that under normal circumstances the mother tends to have better chances of securing full custody of the child. For some fathers who have been nothing but loving and active in their children’s lives it can be difficult to see their children as much as they would like. Whether you are a mother or father a visitation attorney can help you come to the best arrangement possible.
Your attorney will be able to liaise with your ex spouse’s attorney eliminating the risk of argument or threats to each other. Once you have given your attorney all the necessary information they need, let them handle as much as possible. This will ease the stress on you which ultimately ease the stress on your children.
Different families and situations require different approaches and that’s where having a legal representative will have its benefits. They have the experience to know what is likely to work for you and what wont. They have probably seen every possible scenario before and their guidance and advice should be extremely valuable.
Serious matters are first taken into consideration regarding the suitability of each parent to gain custody or visitation rights to the children. Violent or aggressive behaviors, substance abuse, any history of abuse towards the other parent or children are just some of the reasons that will impact negatively on that person obtaining visitation rights.
If both parents are deemed suitable parents your visitation attorney will start working towards a custody arrangement. Taking into consideration the children’s wishes, what is best for the children, the bond between children and each parent and the suitability of the home, full custody may be given to one parent. The other parent may have weekend and holiday visitation rights. If joint custody is awarded your attorney will draught a suitable visitation arrangement which maybe be one week on, one week off, for example. They can draught several different visitation plans which can then be approved by both parents and children.
Once a suitable arrangement has been made your attorney can also help draw up a transportation agreement. This is often overlooked in private agreements and usually ends up causing the most grief to the parents and especially the children to see it first hand. This agreement will cover who is responsible for the pick up’s and drop off’s and if that is to take place at each parents home or on neutral territory. It can also include other family members who are often enlisted to do the handover for the sake of peace during the transition. This is often the best idea for the children if the parents are unable to put their arguments on hold. Lastly the agreement will clearly outline the importance of punctuality meaning you actually will drop them off at the agreed time and the other parent will have them packed and ready to be picked up at the agreed time. All these little details make this difficult transition so much easier especially on the children as they hopefully see you are working together for their benefit. All of which is made more easily possible when you have a visitation attorney to guide you through.